Miss It

How far we love stability? Is it normal to missed some challenge?
Just like Rob Thomas said, I am not crazy, just a little unwell. Stability is good but it also means we are not moving. 
Oh, I miss you my challenge 

I miss your words, your way of thinking, your nonstop talking and surprises that can last for 3 hours strike. I miss your laugh and the way you look at me. I miss your sarcastic comments about your female colleague LOL, I miss your story. I miss how you miss me and never admit it but keep on bugging me. 
Feels like hairless now, and I know you you will grow back the hair. Things has changed, I know. 
Please talk cause I miss it, a lot ❤️

Sincerely,
-your forever crush- 

 

Work on Progress

I never thought I will write another post about marriage, but hey it is something good right? As a reminder of how two strangers decided to tie the knot and live together for the rest of their lives (well happily ever after only stated on movie I guess 😆) 

Marriage is a work on progress, yup, that’s right. Absolutely! 

When I first decided to get married, I opened myself to my husband that I will need to remains being myself no matter what. I will be the same person and I won’t change. 

And after 7 years of marriage, I still believe that it is the right things to do. Remains being ourselves.

I am so blessed that we have the opportunity to work closer as a team mate at home. 

Things has changed, a lot, from both working parents who’s busy and supported by a great nanny and trustable maid, now here we are, me as full time mom and part timer of something else (hey I still do some work that I like 😍) and my dear husband who work hard for us. 

I have to say this, I am so proud of him. He is able to equally support me, he wash the dishes, he clean the floor, scrub the toilets, preparing dinner (cook the rice 😄). 

He spend his “me time” with my boy and they create boys time together. My boy is his bestfriend. They are missing each other when apart. I always thought my boy will be mommy’s boy, oh well, he is daddy’s boy now. They have undeniable chemistry that making me jealous sometimes (They argue a lot too LOL) 

But then again, I am a happy and proud mama. 

When I was at my 20s, I always imagine myself marrying someone at 30s something (thanks to Carrie who’s empowering single girl). I thought, my man will sweep me off my feet but at the same time will be my partner in crime, my best friend for sure. I  am so lucky that it become a reality except for I was marrying him at my late 20s. 

Our wedding day is the best. Simple, intimate and I was preparing everything with the help of my moms. At first my parents and his family resquested to have slightly bigger wedding but thank God we were able to convince them. 

It was 2 days before the big day when I arrive in Bandung and we just realize that my husband doesn’t have appropriate outfit for “pengajian”. We are rushing here and there. I didn’t do any pre wedding saloon treatment 😆 and I was having a worst gastric problem on that week (I survived thanks to Tong Ren Tang). It felt like a rush wedding but it wasn’t. I handwrite all the address on the invitation and so happy to do it. 

My wedding dress is custom made by my good friend. A lovely kebaya and one amazing dress 😍 

Only 300 guest invited to our wedding, We were surrounded by close friends and family. It was outdoor wedding and raining! We took it as a bless. 

I  am so proud to see how far we are now, dealing with one challenge to another. It’s still a hardwork to deal with, but I know that we are going strong. Marriage is a work on progress. Don’t stop believe in it ❤️ 

  
– Ana & Dony 160208 – 

Question and more question

I got asked last night by a friend, how to maintain your marriage and does it feel the same after few years?do you still feel the love, the spark, the passion? Good question, great and somehow it took sometimes for me to answer it. 

He was sharing his experience with his client, from open marriage to regular one night stand type, from ideal couple and divorce client (without names for sure). 

I woke up and wondering about our discussion last night. What make a marriage last?

Every couple now and then must have one way or another to maintain their marriage. Ladies, let me say this, it’s way far from the movies (at least not my marriage, it is far from movie type marriage). 

What makes the marriage last. Basic, corny, cheesy, common answer that I must agree with is communication. 

When you feel lost without communication, discuss it, talk about it, your partner should know about it. It’s a marriage, you should talk to each other, share and laugh. When you can communicate well, you will understand, you will build tolerance, you will get to know him/her better. 

Communication is my no 1 rules. 

Is the spark, chemistry, love still there?

The answer is yes, but to me it has transformed into something else. It’s no longer sparkling love that you shout on top of the world or doing it every second, but it’s glittery love that huge and you are doing things that you never imagine would do. 

Yes the love is still there. 

I do have some imagination, some wild thought, some retoric question, how can I able to stay here with someone for the past 7 years. Woke up to same person everyday. It will be great to kiss someone else for a change (oops sorry hubs 😄😄😄) 

But then it lead me to another question, was it worth to do it?

One thing for sure, marriage is not easy, it’s a constant hardwork from both side. 

When someone is about to give up, the other one should know and convince her/him to not giving up. 

I believe that whenever there’s a fight, as long as one of them decided not to give up and fight for it, marriage will last. 

So tell me, how’s your marriage?
-A-